Beginners Guide to Squirting

Squirting is the involuntary expulsion of fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal and/or orgasm. It happens in response to stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall - commonly known as the G-spot - and produces a clear, watery fluid in varying quantities. 

For some people it's a humble trickle. For others it's a proper explosive-gush. For some, it's a mix of the two or somewhere in the middle. Try and not compare yourself to other people. 

For most, it feels unique-and-extraordinary. 

It is one of the most searched topics in sexual wellness - and one of the most misunderstood, thanks in no small part to how it's been portrayed in produced porn films and within adult content creators video work. It's important to note that many porn and OnlyFans performers fake it using water for dramatic effect. 

The real thing is quieter, less theatrical, and considerably more satisfying.

Here's the question everyone asks and very few guides answer honestly. 

Research has confirmed that the main component of squirt fluid is urine, but it may also contain fluid from the Skene's glands. This was confirmed in a study where researchers inserted a urethral catheter, emptied the bladder, and injected a coloured dye - the discharged fluid was coloured in all cases, confirming the bladder as the primary source. 

This doesn't make it less real or less pleasurable - it just means the "but is it pee?" question has a nuanced answer: mostly, yes. But, it's highly diluted urine, produced under conditions of intense arousa and expelled involuntarily during orgasm. It's also physiologically distinct from urinary incontinence. 

Squirting is defined as the orgasmic transurethral expulsion of fluid and is categorically different from coital incontinence, which is a separate phenomenon. 

If you've been worried you were "just weeing" - you weren't. It's a genuine physiological response to sexual stimulation, and it feels completely different. If you are interesting in weeing, click here.

Not necessarily - and that's important to say upfront. Comparing your body's sexual function to another person's is always a slippery slope - and not something we'd recommend.

Every body is different, and squirting is no exception.

Research suggests the experience varies enormously between individuals - a 2024 cross-sectional study of 1,568 women found that 58% had experienced ejaculation or squirting at least once, but for most it happened only on a few occasions rather than consistently. More research is still needed, and prevalence estimates across studies range considerably. 

Some people squirt easily and frequently. Some have done it once. Some never have and never will, regardless of technique. Not squirting does not mean you're insufficiently aroused or doing it wrong. 

Squirting is one possible response to G-spot stimulation. It's not the measure of a good orgasm and not something to chase at the expense of actual pleasure.

 With that said - if you're curious and want to explore squirting, here's how.

Let's remove the mystery surrounding squirting and understand what's happening physically - and where. 

The G-spot is not technically a spot - it's a region on the anterior wall of the vagina, roughly 5 - 8cm inside, toward the belly button. To find it, insert your fingers and curl them in a C-shape (think of the shape of our G-Spot sex toys, for reference), pressing toward the front wall of your body - the side closest to your stomach. The tissue there feels slightly ridged or textured compared to the surrounding vaginal wall. When aroused, the tissue swells and becomes more pronounced and easier to locate. 

The Skene's glands - sometimes called 'the female prostate' - sit on either side of the urethra near its lower end. Female ejaculation includes a small-volume release likely from the Skene's glands and a larger-volume squirting from the urethra that often contains diluted urine mixed with gland secretions.

The clitoris extends far deeper internally than the external bud suggests - the internal structure wraps around the vaginal canal. G-spot stimulation activates the internal clitoral legs simultaneously, which is why combined G-spot and clitoral stimulation is so reliably effective for squirting. Feels good, doesn't it?

Empty your bladder beforehand - got for a nice wee. And this is not because you're going to wee during - but because knowing you won't makes it considerably easier to relax into the sensation when you feel that pressure building. 

Hydrate. This sounds conterintuitive but it is true, as being well-hydrated produces a more fluid response. A glass of water beforehand is genuinely very useful. 

Prepare your environment. Squirting produces fluid - sometimes a surprising amount of it. A towel, a waterproof blanket, or a dedicated sex sheet (click here) laid down in advance removes one layer of anxiety from the experience and allows your beautiful body to relax easier. 

 Arousal first, always. The G-spot is much easier to locate and stimulate when you're fully aroused - and your body is recognising it - as the tissue swells and becomes more prominent. Rushing to G-spot stimulation without adequate warm-up is the single most common mistake beginners make. Take your time, lubricate aquately, and RELAX.

Step 1: Warm up properly. Spend real time on clitoral stimulation before going anywhere near the G-spot. Use your fingers, a vibrator, a suction/air-wave toy, or all three. You want to be noticeably, and undisputedly, aroused before the next step. 

Step 2: Find the G-spot. Insert one or two fingers palm-up (using a liberal amount of lubricant, if wanted and needed), curl them toward your belly button, and feel for the slightly ridged, textured area on the front wall. It's usually about 5 - 8cm inside. 

Step 3: Apply firm and consistent pressure. This is where most beginners go wrong - they are too light and too hesitant. The G-spot responds to firm pressure and a consistent, strong, rhythm. Use a beckoning "come hither" motion with your fingers, or steady pulsing pressure. Build this gradually and maintain the rhythm rather than varying it constantly. 

Step 4: Add clitoral stimulation. Dual stimulation - G-spot and clitoris simultaneously - is the most reliable route to squirting pleasure. Use your other hand, a vibrator, or a toy designed for both at once. 

Step 5: Lean into the pressure sensation - which can be unusual and take a while to trust - so be patient with yourself. When you feel the urge to urinate, bear down slightly rather than clenching - as clenching suppresses the response. Bearing down and relaxing through it allows the fluid to release. This is the part that takes practice and trust in your own body. Take your time.

Fingers: Your partner inserts two fingers palm-up and uses the same come-hither technique as mentioned above, applying firm upward pressure toward your belly button. Communication here is EVERYTHING - you know what you're feeling, they need your feedback to calibrate.

The best positions for partner play: 

• On your back with a pillow under your hips - elevates the pelvis and gives your partner better access and angle. 
• Doggy style - deep penetration with a curved toy or fingers reaches the anterior wall effectively. 
• Sitting upright against a headboard - allows you to direct the depth and pressure more actively. 

For penetrative sex: Positions that angle toward the anterior vaginal wall - your partner entering from below, or you on top leaning slightly forward - increase G-spot contact during penetration. 

Adding a vibrator to the clitoris simultaneously is highly effective.

Not all sex toys are created equal for this. You want something that does the job perfectly, and in many cases, personalised to your own needs in terms of sensitivity and comfort. And when I say comfort, I am also talking about how comfortable a toy is to hold for extended periods of time. 

What you're looking for is a pronounced upward curve thats firm enough to apply real pressure to the anterior wall - with enough length to reach comfortably. Floppy or very soft toys lose the pressure you need. Try and not be intimidated by firmness. 

G-spot vibrators with a curved head - the curve does the angular work for you, and vibration adds an additional layer of stimulation to the tissue. Look for toys with a pronounced curve rather than a gentle one. 

The Titus 8 inch Curved Double-Ended G-Spot Wand - stainless steel, double-ended, heavy, and with a pronounced bulbous end. This toy is incredibly popular at Uberkinky, especially with those who enjoy squirting, and comes highly recommended. Click here.

Rabbit-style dual stimulators - the arm that stimulates the clitoris externally while the internal shaft hits the G-spot simultaneously is precisely the dual stimulation approach the technique requires. Internal-and-external orgasmic bliss.

Curved dildos in firm materials - glass or stainless steel particularly. The firmness is the key factor for G-spot pressure. A silicone toy also works well, if it's on the firmer end of the spectrum. 

Whichever toy you choose - use lube. Plenty of it. Water-based is the safe all-round choice and compatible with all materials.

Squirting produces fluid. Sometimes a surprising amount of it 💦 

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Because making calculations about your mattress mid-orgasm is not, it turns out, particularly conducive to coming.

What does squirting feel like? Most people describe it as a release - a wave of intense pressure followed by a sudden letting-go sensation. The build-up often involves that strong urge-to-urinate feeling, which resolves into something distinctly pleasurable as it releases. 

Is squirting the same as a G-spot orgasm? Not necessarily. G-spot stimulation can produce squirting without orgasm, orgasm without squirting, or both together. They're related but not the same thing.

 How much fluid is normal? Anywhere from a small trickle to several tablespoons. Volume varies between people and sessions and has no bearing on the quality of the experience.

 Do I need a special toy to squirt? Not strictly - fingers alone work well. But a curved G-spot toy with a firm enough body to apply real pressure to the anterior wall makes the technique significantly more accessible, especially for beginners. It's different for every body and you'll learn what works for you over time.

Why do I feel like I need to pee during G-spot stimulation? Because the Skene's glands and the urethra are adjacent to the bladder, and stimulation of that area activates similar nerve pathways. Empty your bladder beforehand, recognise the sensation as a signal you're in the right place, and bear down slightly rather than clenching to suppress it. Relaxation is your friend as you practice. 

Can I learn to squirt if I never have before? Possibly! With patience, technique, and realistic expectations. Some people discover they can with practice. Others find the anatomy simply doesn't produce that response regardless of technique. Both are normal. 

Is squirting always a large amount of fluid? No. Despite what pornography depicts, most squirting produces a modest amount of clear, watery fluid. Volume varies significantly between individuals. Don't compare yourself to others.

What's the best position for squirting with a partner? On your back with a pillow under your hips, giving your partner clear access to the anterior vaginal wall. Combined with clitoral stimulation, this is the most reliable starting point.

"If I squirt I'm weeing." No - see the science section above. It's physiologically distinct from urinary incontinence, produced under entirely different conditions - and also - it feels completely different. 

"If I can't squirt something is wrong with me." Nothing is wrong! Everyones anatomy varies. Not everyone has Skene's glands of the same size or sensitivity. Some people are just physiologically less likely to squirt, regardless of techniqu - and that's simply anatomy. Every body is different.

 "Squirting means I had a better orgasm." Not necessarily. Squirting and orgasm are related - but separate phenomena. You can have an extraordinary orgasm without squirting, and you can squirt without a particularly intense orgasm. One can be true without the other.

"You need a partner to squirt." A person may find it easier to squirt when masturbating rather than during sex with a partner, because they can focus entirely on their own sensations and adjust accordingly. Solo exploration is often the better starting point and a wonderful way to learn about your body - which can later be applied to other sexual activity. 

This guide uses anatomical language throughout - anterior vaginal wall, Skene's glands, urethra - because precision matters for technique. 

Squirting is possible for anyone with this anatomy, regardless of gender identity. If you have a vagina and a urethra, this guide applies to you.

• Female ejaculation and squirting as similar but completely different phenomena - PubMed
• Enhanced visualization of female squirting - Okayama University
• Female ejaculation - Wikipedia
• Squirting: Definition, how it feels, and tips - Medical News Today